How to Approach Mediation

We are all mediators. It may well be that you have had to mediate between arguing children, family or friends. Think about how you approached that. To be effective, you would have been aware of the facts, speak rationally and be neutral.

When you first instruct us, in respect of children or financial matters we will always mediate upon your behalf. To do this we will need:

• Clear instructions from you

• Evidence (usually full financial disclosure).

This will allow us to give you a guide on what you can expect to receive as an outcome – and we will always be honest about what you should expect.

Solicitor mediation is effective. You will have control of the offers which we put forward. You will receive frank advice in respect of any offers which you receive and whether it is a good offer or an offer you could exceed by attending court.

If we are unable to reach an agreement, then the next step is to refer you to mediation. We have several professional mediators who we refer clients onto.

• The first appointment is known as a MIAM (Mediation Information and Assessment Meeting). This will be for you, by yourself, to speak to the mediator about your circumstances and what you hope to achieve.
  
  
• The other party will also have a MIAM. If the mediator believes that your matter is suitable for mediation, then dates for you both to attend will be arranged.

Attend mediation with all the information and documents which you have been asked to provide.

Be courteous to the mediator and your ex-partner. Even if your ex-partner begins to get angry or upset, remain calm.

Be open-minded and pragmatic.

Think about what is important to you and what you would be prepared to concede. Explain why something is important to you.

Whilst the mediation process is ongoing, we will always be in the background. Please feel free to call us if you need advice or assistance – or, if there is a tentative agreement which you would like to speak through with us.  Contact Us